I spoke to you on ask 1 radio and you told me there is a man who comes in and out of my life. i wanted to know what you think of this.
I meet a man in 1986 and had a brief and intense relationship with him. i never forget him and thought of him often over the years. even through my marriage..suddenly in the spring of 2007 i had 3 dreams about him three nights in a row.. the next night i ran across him online..i tried to put him out of my mind but couldn’t
I started to get what i consider signs. hearing songs of our time together.smelling his colonge until i couldn’t stand it anymore.after 6 months if this i emailed hm. He was really happy to hear from me and began to lay on the pressure to come and see him even though he is many states away from where i am.
I didn’t want to tell him i couldn’t afford the trip. or how bad my financial situation is.
after 2 months of him intensely pursuing me he just stopped. you told me on air 1 you see a man back and forth in my life and he is coming back in december. I hope so. but i have to say i think i really have a strong psychic link to this man. and im starting to get signs and dreams again. what do you feel about this is there a psychic link.
Dee, what you are describing is a soulmate relationship. There are several hallmarks we psychics are on the alert for when it comes to a soulmate relationship, and I’m going to mention a few of them, including some I sense you have felt, but didn’t include in your question, helps validate what you feel and perceive about this man.
1. In probably 80-90% of soulmate relationships, one or both are married, or with someone.
2. The same 80-90% applies to physical distance (living in different areas) in a soulmate relationship.
3. In about 60-70% of soulmate relationships, there can be years that have passed in between being in
contact with one another, and as you have described, usually happens in a unexpected or amazing, just
ran across her/him way.
4. This I didn’t see you mention, but have found it to be true in every soulmate case, and I’m confident this
will ring true to you as well. You speak of a psychic link, and that is very true. What I’ve always goosed
soulmate couples with in readings is that they will usually be focused on work, on doing something
they are completely immersed in, with that soulmate will pop into their head out of seemingly nowhere.
I feel this absolutely has happened not just to you, but to him as well. It is a sign of a strong mental link
and proves with YOUR eyes that what you two have isn’t a ordinary relationship. It always suggests that
he pops into your head out of nowhere when HE is thinking about YOU, and that works both ways, so
as you think about him, you pop into his head and thoughts, too.
5. Also commonplace is having a physical tingle somewhere on your person that you normally don’t
experience, often makes the soulmates I’ve read for wonder if anything is wrong with them, but it’s
not a bad tingle, in my experience it’s like a part of you is about to fall asleep and tingles like that.
Might sound crazy, but this is proof of a physical link between you, as the above soulmate popping
into your head out of nowhere is proof of a mental link. Only makes sense that you would get a
physical link as well, as you two always did have crazy strong chemistry, as I see things.
6. Perhaps the worst bit about soulmates, is that they bounce back and forth, particularly the males.
Now it’s not always the case that males are bouncing back and forth, but it’s up there, 95% of the
time, I find that males are frightened of the intense emotional connection, and run away, then
come back, because they can’t NOT come back to a sense of belonging, acceptance, and love.
7. Most importantly, not ALL soulmates are meant to be together. For instance, my soulmate taught me
a great lesson, then left, and won’t be back. You can CHOOSE to keep your soulmate in your life if you
wish to, or you can say this is too rough and emotionally wrenching and walk away. I am upfront and
honest if they aren’t going to stick around, and in your case, Dee, you’ve nothing to worry about, as he
is going to come back.
Has it occurred to you, Dee, that these dreams beginning again and such herald either him being in touch again, or are prompting you to reach out and get in touch? I still get him contacting to see if you are still out there in December, but you can speed the process up by contacting him back. I know you are reticent to do so, but it would make contact a bit easier than the hesitance that he will come back with otherwise.
You could easily reach out and say something like, “Can you believe this economy, been having a bit of a rough time trying to keep up, hence me being out of touch of late, how have you been doing?”
Saying that accomplishes three things. First, you are letting him know that a trip probably wouldn’t be feasible to come and see him, without outright stating that you are in a tight squeeze financially, which I still don’t get you wanting to do. Secondly, as I get his personality as if you don’t do or say what he’d like to hear at times, he can back off, or be a bit petulant at times, so in this way you are taking responsibility for the distance, thereby letting him off the hook, and getting his irritation that you weren’t as eager as he was to see you out of the way. Third and most important, the tone of the message is so light, friendly, and casual, you are making him see all is well and that you would like to hear from him again.
Might sound odd that so much can be packed into one or two little sentences, but I know you can see the logic behind it, Dee.
I do believe things are still going to be somewhat back and forth, that’s why I suggest reaching out with what I’ve written above. You CAN and DO influence the future, and using what I’ve provided as a “script” of sorts will help smooth things out, and help him be more friendly, eager, and thrilled to be in touch.
Thanks soooo much for your question, always good to see a great person get what they truly deserve!
Just remember nothing worth having comes easy, as even when he is back, you two are going to have to talk and reconnect a great deal before any meetings face to face come up…
PS, I’ve tried to edit the friggin format here about ten times, with no luck..so imagine the little spaces and paragraphs, because wordpress isn’t cutting me any slack today, apparently