Channelling is another gift we hear a great deal about. This is when the psychic or medium will actually allow their bodies to be taken over by spirit guides or those who have passed over and are looking to reunite with those they love. Channelling doesn’t exactly light my fire; I’m a little too uptight to let anyone take over me to talk through my mouth. Plus I’d hate to deprive my clients of my foul mouth, and creativity in employing new combinations of curse words.
It’s vastly important to note that no spirit guide, and no one who has passed will ever “possess” a person. I did not mention ghosts in relation to channelling because ghosts are earthbound, and therefore don’t stand a chance in hell of possessing someone…which is somewhat the contrary of some popular beliefs I’ve heard bandied about. Remember that the spirit guide or passed over loved one has only one thing in mind…connecting and helping in what ways they can. I think watching a legitimate channeller do their business would be incredibly cool.
It would be wise to talk to the channeler a bit before they begin the session. Validation would lie not only in the total change of their personality, but the correct info they come out with in regards to your questions. In a very real sense, if you desire a real time, face to face talk with your spirit guide or a passed over relative, I should think those who channel would do the trick, though I’m sure it would take some getting used to. Channelling is without doubt a more direct means of communication, but be aware that both spirit guides and those who have passed can only give you so much information. They cannot give you the winning lottery numbers, or tell you things about your future that you must learn on your own. This is necessary to be aware of before a reading so that you know your whole future will not be given to you.
Mediumship I think we all know about. It’s the ability to talk to those who have died. So yeah, we talk to dead people. Some of us use the aforementioned abilities to communicate with the dead, either seeing or hearing them, or both. Others see symbols that have personal meaning for them, These mediums then translate what those who have passed over wish their loved ones to know. It varies quite a bit from medium to medium.
I see the person who has passed over and describe them in detail first, physically. Normally, after the person recognizes who it is, their passed over loved one will change the picture, so that I can convey what they want me to. I do get some information by telepathy as well. I suck out loud at names, so I never get those, nor do I get how a person passed, though I will see if they had physical disabilities or health issues during their life. The dead I talk to aren’t real interested in conveying how they died. Primarily, they want to let their loved ones still stuck on Earth to know they are very much alive, and very much present in their loved ones’ lives. I know other mediums who do get information on how one died, but I prefer not to focus on that, and well, so do my dead people.
Our basic personalities don’t change when we pass over, so sense of humor definitely sticks around. I love that, because dead people just love to fuck with me. I’m a joke on the Other Side for my infamous ability to rarely get names. If I do perchance, get them, I forget them immediately thereafter. This doesn’t just apply to my communications with dead people. I am often introduced to people, and find it only fair to immediately tell them I’ll never remember their names, but I’ll always remember their face. Maybe.
Most of my clients’ families stick around to rib me for a bit, and I have to admit, I love it. So many people feel spooked by anyone who can talk to the dead, but I’m here to tell you, it is so much fun. You don’t have the negativity that you get with living people for one thing, and those who have passed are always in a fabulous mood, which placates me a little when they decide to fuck with me. Medium readings are my favorite kind of reading to give; they always make my day. It’s a reunion that gives many people the faith that they will meet their loved ones on the Other Side, someday.
I have witnessed many clients who are afraid of death. These same clients, upon validation that they have relatives, friends, and pets who are awaiting them on the Other Side, are more able to overcome their fear of death and anticipate the big party they will arrive to one day. I’ll tell you what sticks in my craw though. I said dead people retain their sense of humor, right? Often, in the middle of a reading, they will spit out one or two word phrases I then have to pass on…no matter what those few words might be. I had to tell my best pal, Suzanne, during a medium reading with her grandfather, that the one word he wanted her to hear was “Rooster.” I cringed before I spat it out, but when I said it, sure enough, she laughed uproariously, and said that her Grandfather had a favorite rooster who lived right in his house with him. Now, while I was slouched in relief and praying to God he’d not make a fool of me like that again, she was thrilled, knowing that this was one piece of validation no one could have easily come up with.
Those incidents leave me cold and shaking every single time. My colleagues who are mediums suffer the same situation. Being able to swap stories about it definitely makes it a bit easier. Unfortunately for us, it is always imperative that we spit out exactly what we get, even if it means, as in a recent session, I had to tell my client that her Dad was showing me sausage. I kid you not, I managed to cringe and flinch at the same time after he told me that. She immediately guffawed and told me he made his own sausage all the time, and had his very own secret recipe. Little things like that, that are specific in nature, and could not be easily guessed at, are what you should be looking for if you want a medium session.
In my personal and professional opinion, a medium reading needs more connection time than psychic readings. You have to make certain you are connecting with this person’s beloved pets or loved ones, yet you also need to keep a eye on the client to make sure they are not trying to “fit” some of their passed over loved ones into the situation. It’s not at all uncommon to be performing medium readings before a group, and have some people take the information someone who has passed over is giving and make it somehow fit into the very person they are trying to contact. Not every single person you might be wanting to connect with always comes through. Remembering that and having a open mind will take you a long way in a medium reading.
I like to say that your loved one might hear the phone ringing, but that doesn’t mean they are going to come running. You see, those who have passed know that they will have the opportunity to connect with you at some point; some are just more eager than others to get to that phone when it starts ringing. Take into account also that if someone died recently, they sometimes will need to acclimate to the Other Side. They might be literally unable to cope with having a visit too soon after death. While this isn’t always the norm, it does happens from time to time. It’s best to keep in mind that anyone from any segment of your life who has passed on might drop by, and in my experience, usually more than one person will make an appearance.
If you are looking for a medium reading, the best thing to judge in a good medium is that they do the talking. At no time should you provide a medium with anything more than a yes/no/make sense answer. I myself am very harsh about this; if you are feeding me extra information, then that is one less thing your passed over friend, loved one, or pet has to give me to validate that it is really them, wanting to connect with you. I have been known to tell clients who know me very well to shut the hell up so they can get the information from the horse’s mouth, so to speak, instead of giving me any information ahead of time.
If any medium you happen to consult seems to be making guesses, or dealing in generalities, quit the session and look around for another medium. It’s too important to legit mediums that you have an amazing experience, a true reunion with those you’ve loved but definitely not lost. It’s the best feeling in the world to know you are never alone, and hell, if a vulgar bitch like myself can provide it, well, I’ll be tickled pink. Medium readings make mediums happy, too.
None of the abilities I’ve described will tell you the sum total of your future. There will always be blank spots, information you don’t get in order to learn a lesson and grow stronger. Not that learning these lessons is great, it’s usually painful, and can be drawn out and protracted. But hell, we all fall into this mud puddle called life. Sometimes there are people who are there to help pull us out and brush the mud off. Mostly, we just have to drag ourselves out, tearing off a few fingernails in the process. Our fingernails will heal, with time, and then we’ll move on.