Have to cancel this weeks lineup, will be following hubby and our belongings on the road to my home state, Missouri; can’t resist the opportunity to get out of the Texas heat and live near a lake on several peaceful acres of land.
Hate to let Sarah Prout and Betsy Otter Thompson fans down, but life got in the way this time…
Will do my best to post asap after relocation!
I want to be upfront and honest right now; I expect to be moving house soon, so hopefully I will be able to squeeze both these interviews in; if not I will try and re-schedule and certainly inform you if my plans change!
In addition to Walking Through Illusion (published by O-Books, an imprint of John Hunt Publishing Ltd), Betsy Otter Thompson is the author of The Mirror Theory (published by Hampton Roads Publishing) and 4 self-published books through her own company, Ascension Publishing. The self-published books are now at of print, but Betsy hopes to eventually get them on e-books.
Betsy’s work has always gravitated toward the media. A native Philadelphian with a B.F.A. from the University of Pennsylvania, Betsy worked as an account executive for WFIL radio in Philadelphia, and from there went to radio stations WPEN and WFLN. After that, she became a commercial print model and acted in television commercials in New York and Philadelphia. For seventeen years, she worked in Los Angeles at the motion picture and television company Castle Rock Entertainment as the Assistant to the Chairman and CEO. In August ‘99, she followed her boss to Warner Bros. as he took a new position there as President and COO, and became his Executive Assistant. She is now writing full time. Betsy’s writing began unexpectedly while going through an especially difficult time in her life. She believes that her books were the answer to her prayers.
No better way to introduce Sarah than through her own words:
I’m the author of THE POWER OF INFLUENCE (Wiley 2010) and it’s my true passion to teach people to live creative and vibrant lives. I’m in my element when I’m brainstorming, playing with words and working with Photoshop. I’m inspired by art, design and ornateness. I believe that we create our own reality with our thoughts and feelings. I also believe that people take themselves too seriously and there’s nothing better than laughing until your face hurts.
In 2008, I started SPROUT PUBLISHING and have since created 2 self-published titles (SPROUT the Life You Love + SPROUT WEALTH) featuring bestselling authors and A-list entrepreneurs such as ARIELLE FORD, Lipstick Queen POPPY KING and EMMY award-winner, RHONDA BRITTEN. My first print run of 9,000 books sold out with record online pre-sales.
My love of social media blossomed over time and I now have over 40,000 followers on Twitter. I believe that the social web is amazing as long as you are authentic and engage with other people. In fact, (laugh) I met the love of my life (Mr. Sean Patrick Simpson) on Twitter which proves that the online world is a wonderland of magnificent possibilities!
I love to work with online entrepreneurs to brainstorm new ideas, product development + creative methods to engage and connect to their target audience. For more info on working with me please click here. I’ve been fortunate enough to work with many amazing clients from around the globe. If you need motivation, inspiration and a fire lit under your butt to kick-ass then I’m your girl!
If you read the first part of my soulmate symposium, you know I’m not in the media’s sway about their…happiness quotient if you will; promised to continue my thoughts on soulmates, so here you have it, continued right from where I left off in Soulmate Symposium; Part 1.
It is very rare that the less mature soulmate will not return to their more mature soulmate. But the damage is done in that initial run. Most mature soulmates have been accustomed to being proactive, not reactive. They have rarely, if ever, fallen in love with anyone as quickly as their soulmate. It is then understandable that they are torn to shreds when the lesser mature soulmate runs. This does not make matters better, for most often, the lesser mature souls return whistling a merry tune, as if they had never been gone at all.
Now you see why the more mature soulmates get stuck with the waiting game. Homicide rates would rise if lesser mature soulmates were subject to the same treatment. Less mature soulmates aren’t stupid, but they certainly are impatient, and normally believe they should be exempt from the treatment they dish out to others. I have been truly astounded at the waits I’ve sensed and seen in more mature souls who have soulmates who tend to run not just once, but many times over the years.
There is purpose underlying all of this, if the two are meant to be together. Everywhere I look today, it seems to be a foregone conclusion that you are “meant” to be with your soulmate forever and ever. Not true. Not all soulmates are meant to stick together. In cases where they meet only for a short time, each teaches the other a vital life lesson that no one else would have been fit to teach in their place. Also, not every soulmate decides to incarnate together in every life. In some cases, soulmates don’t ever incarnate into their mirror images lives. In other words, you are not a failure if you do not find your soulmate; he or she might not even be on Earth at the moment. You are actually giving yourself a huge break in this life if you don’t run across your soulmate, for even those who are going to eventually be together have more pain to go through than they would in an “average” relationship.
There is purpose that underlies the going of separate ways for often surprising lengths of time in an soulmate relationship. There is an interruption in frequency in the brains of the more mature soulmate that interferes in a very real way with their personal and professional lives. It’s as if these well adjusted, incredibly intelligent people lose their minds for some time. I’m not referring to the discoveries of scientist that have pointed out that we all go a little crazy when falling in love. I’m referring to being so involved, so merged, if you will, with another person that you lose some part of yourself in the process.
Because of this, separation is necessary. The more mature soulmate nearly always feels embarrassed, ashamed, and even guilty for losing what they’ve always seen as their strength, wisdom, and ability to see who people as they really are. They feel scammed, conned, and fooled, and yet they cannot stop loving the object of their desire either. Not being in control is a terribly frightening thing to those who have always had control over their emotions and lives. Normally, mature soulmates will have taken care of everyone their entire life. Yet they rarely receive the gratitude or attention they deserve for their acts of kindness and charity to others. These are people who give much and take next to nothing. That said, mature soulmates know when to stop giving as well. They are cognizant of when they are being taken advantage of, and will not continue to allow that-with anyone but their soulmates.
Time is also needed after the initial collision, for the less mature soul to grow up, and for the more mature soul to regain a sense of self. Not to mention that one or both might be involved in a marriage or committed relationship with another. While I rarely see less mature souls as giving a flying fuck if they happen to be having an emotional affair with someone else, it is always detrimental to a mature soul who prides themselves on doing the right thing by everyone, including their partner or spouse.
You can see also that time is needed for each soulmate to figure out what exactly it is they want to do. Do they want to explore things further with their mirror image, or do they want to stick with the security and stability of the relationship they are already involved in? It doesn’t matter if there are issues in their “normal” relationship or not, this is still a vastly important decision they must make. In a few instances, mature soulmates make no choice at all, staying with the safety of their “normal” relationship and experiencing the seesaw that is their soulmate relationship.
Normally, the mature souls struggle with this more so than the less mature souls. Not because the less mature soulmates are assholes either. The more mature soulmates are not accustomed to letting anyone down; whereas the less mature soulmate thinks more of themselves than anyone else. Nor are more mature soulmates accustomed to putting themselves first in many situations, though they are not doormats. They can certainly put their hip waders on to kick the shit out of anyone giving them trouble. However, put in a position where they view themselves ruining others lives to get what they want, it is a quandary mature soulmates often hesitate on when presented with the decision that is theirs and theirs alone to make.
Not helping matters any is the lesser evolved soul, who often will run away more than once when the emotional depth and width of the soulmate relationship overcomes them. I’ve seen less mature soulmates run out and damn near pick the first person they see to get in a relationship with in an futile attempt to try and forget the love they left. In many cases, the years pass while the less mature soul evolves and grows more, and the more mature souls figure out what they want. When both reunite, each stand a much better chance of making their feelings known, as well as going through all the reasons things did not work out in years past. Then both can either come to an decision as to being together, or going their separate ways. I have never seen a soulmate pair not resolve things, be it going away forever, or sticking together and making things work out.
I have seen soulmates reunite after twenty years; I have also observed soulmates who have reunited after six months apart. This does not mean they reunite and are together forever. Some of those very rare cases where a teenager meets their soulmate have reunions decades after they first met. It sounds awfully sweet doesn’t it? Yet it’s hell on Earth, because neither ever forgets the other. In fact, both often pined in the back of their respective minds for one another the entire time they were parted.
Frequently, soulmates pine for one another for years because there is a active physical and mental link between them. I find this of interest because science has proven that in “normal” couples, it takes about ten years for partners to develop a low grade telepathic link with their significant other. The difference in soulmates is that that link, once activated, is not broken unless one chooses to walk away forever. While some do walk, they comprise the minority today, not the majority as once used to be. Perhaps, as some of my colleagues conjecture, it is because our planet has more people arriving day in and day out. The more souls born, the more likely you might have a run in with your soulmate. It is what it is. I don’t speculate about the reasons behind it; I just deal with the fallout.
I couldn’t help noticing a couple kids on a rare trip to let my kids work off their energy at McDonald’s the other day; one was unruly, resisting every single one of his grandmother’s attempts to restrain him from walking right out of the door in search of his mother (who was in the bathroom; kind of hard to avoid the shouting voice of the grandmother which imparted this knowledge). The other kid was a girl who initially seemed frightened of every single thing in her environment.
The unruly boy was being told in no uncertain terms he would do what his grandmother asked, and he was continually harangued by her; even when Mom arrived, the boy was still being told he would do this, that, or the other…and the little bugger resisted these lectures every step of the way, while his mother just seemed resigned; this was the status quo and always would be.
The girl seemed apprehensive to go into the play place; once she was there, she came running back to state that one of my sons had told her she couldn’t play. Brow darkening, I turned and asked her grandmother to repeat what my son had said, and in a voice that brooked no opposition, I ordered my boys down.
Turns out my son had told her the video game machine the girl wanted to play with was broken, and my son had told her because of this, she couldn’t play with it. Matter sorted out, grandmother and I smiled at one another and exchanged a few pleasantries before turning back to our food.
My ears unwittingly tuned right back into the boy, who was still protesting being held back from his grandmother; in fact, the kid had not played in the play place since we’d been there…and you can bet your taut ass I make sure my kids play their bums off there so we would have peace when we got home.
The girl’s grandmother caught my attention then; she was going over to ensure her granddaughter had the best time possible and attending to her every need. Walking back, grandma smiled at me again before we heard the little girl tell my son that he needed to be nice. Our ears had been peeled from the initial disturbance, and grandma told the little girl to be polite; that my son hadn’t been bothering her while I remained silent; it was true, after all.
The little boy never got to play; he was bundled up and, still being lectured, taken out the play place crying the whole way.
The little girl went on to order around a couple different kids before our kids were ready to head for home, which we did.
On our way home, my mind returned to those two kids; very different environments, and only one was going to be the stronger for it.
The boy, of course.
You don’t get what you want in this world; you get what you need. This kid had the cojones to stand up to grandma in spite of her lecturing and despite his mother, who never said one word in his defense. That kind of belief in the self is one that will be rewarded in the long run.
The girl would be most people’s pick for top of the heap as she grows older; from my perspective, I fail to see how getting everything served to you on a silver platter does you much good. You see it, you want it, you must have it…but not through any effort of yours; someone else will have to give her what she wants, which bodes ill for them and worse for her as the years roll by and less people are willing to put up with her bullshit to deliver what she demands when she believes she needs it.
The boy believes in himself because no one else will.
The girl believes in herself because she has always come first; and always will.