If you read the first part of my soulmate symposium, you know I’m not in the media’s sway about their…happiness quotient if you will; promised to continue my thoughts on soulmates, so here you have it, continued right from where I left off in Soulmate Symposium; Part 1.
It is very rare that the less mature soulmate will not return to their more mature soulmate. But the damage is done in that initial run. Most mature soulmates have been accustomed to being proactive, not reactive. They have rarely, if ever, fallen in love with anyone as quickly as their soulmate. It is then understandable that they are torn to shreds when the lesser mature soulmate runs. This does not make matters better, for most often, the lesser mature souls return whistling a merry tune, as if they had never been gone at all.
Now you see why the more mature soulmates get stuck with the waiting game. Homicide rates would rise if lesser mature soulmates were subject to the same treatment. Less mature soulmates aren’t stupid, but they certainly are impatient, and normally believe they should be exempt from the treatment they dish out to others. I have been truly astounded at the waits I’ve sensed and seen in more mature souls who have soulmates who tend to run not just once, but many times over the years.
There is purpose underlying all of this, if the two are meant to be together. Everywhere I look today, it seems to be a foregone conclusion that you are “meant” to be with your soulmate forever and ever. Not true. Not all soulmates are meant to stick together. In cases where they meet only for a short time, each teaches the other a vital life lesson that no one else would have been fit to teach in their place. Also, not every soulmate decides to incarnate together in every life. In some cases, soulmates don’t ever incarnate into their mirror images lives. In other words, you are not a failure if you do not find your soulmate; he or she might not even be on Earth at the moment. You are actually giving yourself a huge break in this life if you don’t run across your soulmate, for even those who are going to eventually be together have more pain to go through than they would in an “average” relationship.
There is purpose that underlies the going of separate ways for often surprising lengths of time in an soulmate relationship. There is an interruption in frequency in the brains of the more mature soulmate that interferes in a very real way with their personal and professional lives. It’s as if these well adjusted, incredibly intelligent people lose their minds for some time. I’m not referring to the discoveries of scientist that have pointed out that we all go a little crazy when falling in love. I’m referring to being so involved, so merged, if you will, with another person that you lose some part of yourself in the process.
Because of this, separation is necessary. The more mature soulmate nearly always feels embarrassed, ashamed, and even guilty for losing what they’ve always seen as their strength, wisdom, and ability to see who people as they really are. They feel scammed, conned, and fooled, and yet they cannot stop loving the object of their desire either. Not being in control is a terribly frightening thing to those who have always had control over their emotions and lives. Normally, mature soulmates will have taken care of everyone their entire life. Yet they rarely receive the gratitude or attention they deserve for their acts of kindness and charity to others. These are people who give much and take next to nothing. That said, mature soulmates know when to stop giving as well. They are cognizant of when they are being taken advantage of, and will not continue to allow that-with anyone but their soulmates.
Time is also needed after the initial collision, for the less mature soul to grow up, and for the more mature soul to regain a sense of self. Not to mention that one or both might be involved in a marriage or committed relationship with another. While I rarely see less mature souls as giving a flying fuck if they happen to be having an emotional affair with someone else, it is always detrimental to a mature soul who prides themselves on doing the right thing by everyone, including their partner or spouse.
You can see also that time is needed for each soulmate to figure out what exactly it is they want to do. Do they want to explore things further with their mirror image, or do they want to stick with the security and stability of the relationship they are already involved in? It doesn’t matter if there are issues in their “normal” relationship or not, this is still a vastly important decision they must make. In a few instances, mature soulmates make no choice at all, staying with the safety of their “normal” relationship and experiencing the seesaw that is their soulmate relationship.
Normally, the mature souls struggle with this more so than the less mature souls. Not because the less mature soulmates are assholes either. The more mature soulmates are not accustomed to letting anyone down; whereas the less mature soulmate thinks more of themselves than anyone else. Nor are more mature soulmates accustomed to putting themselves first in many situations, though they are not doormats. They can certainly put their hip waders on to kick the shit out of anyone giving them trouble. However, put in a position where they view themselves ruining others lives to get what they want, it is a quandary mature soulmates often hesitate on when presented with the decision that is theirs and theirs alone to make.
Not helping matters any is the lesser evolved soul, who often will run away more than once when the emotional depth and width of the soulmate relationship overcomes them. I’ve seen less mature soulmates run out and damn near pick the first person they see to get in a relationship with in an futile attempt to try and forget the love they left. In many cases, the years pass while the less mature soul evolves and grows more, and the more mature souls figure out what they want. When both reunite, each stand a much better chance of making their feelings known, as well as going through all the reasons things did not work out in years past. Then both can either come to an decision as to being together, or going their separate ways. I have never seen a soulmate pair not resolve things, be it going away forever, or sticking together and making things work out.
I have seen soulmates reunite after twenty years; I have also observed soulmates who have reunited after six months apart. This does not mean they reunite and are together forever. Some of those very rare cases where a teenager meets their soulmate have reunions decades after they first met. It sounds awfully sweet doesn’t it? Yet it’s hell on Earth, because neither ever forgets the other. In fact, both often pined in the back of their respective minds for one another the entire time they were parted.
Frequently, soulmates pine for one another for years because there is a active physical and mental link between them. I find this of interest because science has proven that in “normal” couples, it takes about ten years for partners to develop a low grade telepathic link with their significant other. The difference in soulmates is that that link, once activated, is not broken unless one chooses to walk away forever. While some do walk, they comprise the minority today, not the majority as once used to be. Perhaps, as some of my colleagues conjecture, it is because our planet has more people arriving day in and day out. The more souls born, the more likely you might have a run in with your soulmate. It is what it is. I don’t speculate about the reasons behind it; I just deal with the fallout.